Discipline is an important aspect to the life of children and as a parent, it is your responsibility to ensure that your children receive the important guidance to teach them right from wrong. You may encounter a situation where disciplining your child doesn’t get you anywhere but feeling guilty about telling them to stop something, with a sore throat from yelling, or incredibly high blood pressure. With that being said, parenting isn’t supposed to be a battle, especially when you are disciplining your child. Below are a set of tips that you can use to have a peaceful connection when you are teaching them right from wrong.
Tip 1: Understand the Meaning
The first thing in terms of positive discipline is to understand where your child is coming from and where the behavior is stemming from. Children generally have the ability to behave quite well, but if they aren’t, there is generally a reason for it. Once you are able to find where the behavior stems from, you can work towards eliminating it. The first thing that you will want to ask yourself is if your child is misbehaving to gather attention and is there anything that you can do to your behavior to help.
Tip 2: Controlling Yourself First
Attempting to control your children is a losing battle and it will cause you more stress than you could ever imagine, instead, control yourself first. Have you ever heard the saying, “Monkey see, monkey do”? Your children will emulate the behavior that they see you exhibiting, therefore you will want to show that you resolve conflict peacefully and with grace. This will lower the possibility of your child exhibiting negative behavior such as yelling and hitting.
Tip 3: Consistency is Key
When your child begins to understand that you have expectations that you want them to uphold, it is imperative that you stay consistent with your expectations. You don’t want to overlook a specific behavior that you assume will go away, due to the fact that it won’t go away. Ignoring behavior is equally as detrimental as enabling your child to continue acting harmfully either to themselves or others around them.
Also, remember that children aren’t as naïve as many seem to think. They will try to test your limits by pushing the rules as far as they can. If you notice that this is happening, create an excuse that still states “No” but without actually saying “No”, such as “I love you too much to argue”.